A lot of our problems arise from misunderstanding, our inability to understand all originating in our inability to listen. To understand listening is more important than speaking. Proves our ‘two’ ears and ‘only one mouth. Know that you cannot make someone love you. You cannot make someone stay in your life. In life, lessons are more important to grow and to keep yourself focused. No matter, if you give them all you have and love them with your heart and soul, they will still leave, whenever they want to. Don’t fall for peer pressure. Do the right thing.
So, now I am going to share 50 life lessons that are important in life to gain knowledge of.
- We get treated in life the way we teach others to treat us.
People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. Respect and love yourself and others will do the same.
- There are no mistakes, only powerful lessons we need to master.
If you learn from everything that happens to you, you will discover that there is no such thing as mistakes, only powerful lessons to be learned. And if you don’t, chances are that your life will look at 40 the same way it did when you were 20. And at 60 the way it looked when you were 40.
- Perfection is boring.
Perfection is unattainable, and the pursuit of it makes us boring. It is our differences, our foibles, and the imperfections that connect us to humanity and make us real.
- Serving creates meaning.
If you want meaning in your life, start with serving others. Find a way to make a difference, even a small difference, and your life will feel purposeful.
- Little things matter.
It’s not the big wins, the great accomplishments, or your status in life that count. It’s the accumulation of little things the quiet moments in nature, special time with our kids, seeing the smile on your spouse’s face when you walk in the door. Pay attention to these things.
- Learn forever.
There is so much to learn and explore in our very short lifetimes. Take advantage of learning every single day. Challenge yourself to acquire a new skill, read something different, take a class. Learning keeps our minds engaged and sharp, even into old age.
- Aging happens.
As our body age grows, aging happened. It is a truth we can’t avoid. You can manage to age well by doing the best with what you’ve got. Apart from that, do your best and let it go. Enjoying life is the best antidote to getting older.
- Marriages change.
The person you married will change over time. You will change over time. Hopefully, you will change in the same direction or come to love the changes in the other person. Don’t let these changes take you by surprise. If the changes start to pull you apart, take action as soon as possible to heal the rift.
- Worry is worthless.
Worry is useful only if it leads directly to a solution. But the very nature of worry implies that it doesn’t. You worry about “what ifs” they aren’t real, and the worry itself creates stress and physical symptoms that cause real reason for angst. Learn how to manage your worrying thoughts.
- Heal your wounds.
Don’t allow pain from your past or present to linger and cause you suffering. Don’t stuff it down or pretend it doesn’t matter when it does. Seek support from a professional trained to help you heal and renew your emotional health.
- Simple is better.
A life full of complications, obligations, and an overwhelming schedule makes life more difficult and stressful. A simpler life in all regards gives you more space for joy, authenticity, and engagement.
- Do the work.
If you want something in life, you must do the work to get it. There are rarely shortcuts. But fortunately, the work is what affords the most sense of accomplishment. The process is more engaging than the outcome.
- It’s never too late.
This is an excuse for not trying. Great things can be accomplished at any age. Telling yourself otherwise is a sure way to remain stuck and frustrated.
- Action beats angst.
Action is the cure for worry, procrastination, indecision, anxiety, and frustration. Stop thinking and do something good, and you will create momentum that leads to something valuable or at the least heals your turmoil.
- Creation beats reaction.
Be proactive in your life, designing exactly what you want rather than reacting to what life throws at you. Creation empowers you and expands your opportunities. Reacting disempowers you and diminishes your choices.
- Release attachments.
Don’t become too attached to outcomes or beliefs. Remain open to all possibilities and ideas. You will be surprised how much more there is to life when you don’t cling to your beliefs, opinions, and things.
- Words matter.
The words you speak have power. Consider your words carefully. Use them for good rather than harm. Once they are out, you can’t take them back.
- Make every day count.
If you live to age ninety, how many days do you have left? It is a finite number, and one day you will reach that last day. Remain conscious of the value of every single day. Ask yourself every morning, “What can I do to make today count?”
- Love is the answer.
Love is why we are here. It is the force for good in this often random, painful, and harsh world. Share it freely. Express it daily. Use it as your lodestar.
- Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, to be at peace, to be happy, and to be able to sleep at night. You don’t forgive because you are weak but because you are strong enough to realize that only by giving up on resentment will you be happy. If you hold on to poisonous thoughts like hate, anger, and resentment toward someone, you will end up poisoning yourself more than you poison the other person, and you will be very unhappy.
- What you resist and persist.
What you focus on expands and what you resist, not only does it persist, but it also grows in size. And if you want to shrink something and make it disappear from your life, you need to stop feeding it by fighting against it.
- Life is all about the journey and less about the destination.
A lot of times we get so focused on our big dreams and goals, but we forget to enjoy this journey called life. Always remember that life is all about this moment. Life is all about the journey and less about the destination. So, take a deep cleansing breath and allow yourself to be present in everything you do. Allow yourself to enjoy each second of your life to observe the world around you, the people present in your life, and the beauty that is present within and all around you.
- People deserve a second chance.
The moment you forgive somebody, chances are that you will also give them a second chance, a chance to be near you, without trying to remind them of what they did to you, treating them not as they are, or as they once were, but rather as you want them to be. By doing this, you are also allowing them to grow and to become better and better every day.
Your ego might tell you to “let these people go” but what does your heart tell you? We are all humans, we all make mistakes, and we all deserve a second chance, and why not, maybe a third, fourth, a sixth, and a seventh.
- If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will.
Don’t expect others to see gold where you can only see dust. If you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t believe that you are capable, a worthy human being, chances are that nobody will. You will act on that belief and people will treat you based on what you think about yourself, based on how you treat yourself and based on how you act and behave in the world.
- Our attitude toward life will determine life’s attitude toward us.
If you think life is unfair, and that bad things always happen to you, chances are that life will treat you unfairly, and you will always have many reasons to complain about it. Because just how there is a law of gravity, there is also a law of attraction, and based on this law, you attract in your life that which you think about all day long, you attract that which you are, because you see, like attracts like.
- Posturing builds walls.
Creating a persona to impress or shield yourself from pain diminishes intimacy and authenticity. People generally see through this, and it pushes them away. And you look like a fool.
- Exercise is power.
Exercise should be a daily priority for everyone. It makes you physically, mentally, and emotionally stronger. It improves your health and your outlook. It is the panacea for just about everything.
- Grudges cause pain.
Holding on to a grudge is like injecting poison into your body every day. Forgive and let go. There’s no other way. If your ego is preventing you from forgiving and letting something go, then tell your ego to take a hike. It’s getting in the way of your happiness and well-being.
- Passion upgrades life.
When you find that thing you love to do with all your heart, every day feels like a gift. If you haven’t found your life passion, make it your mission to find it. The joy brings you spills over into all aspects of your life.
- Travel expands you.
Travel makes you a more interesting, insightful, and accepting person. It expands you, enlightens you, and teaches you about the variety of people, lifestyles, and cultures. It is a pursuit well worth saving for.
- You aren’t always right.
We think we have the answers, know what’s right and wrong, good and bad, best for ourselves and other people. But we aren’t always right. There’s always more than one version. Many perspectives are valid. Keep yourself open to that truth.
- It will pass.
Whatever is causing you worry or pain right now won’t cause you to worry and pain forever. Time heals. Things change. It will pass.
- You define meaning.
A meaningful life is what you define it to be. If you neglect to define meaning, you won’t experience it. Decide what makes life worth living for you, and then design your life around that.
- Risk expands you.
To make a positive change in your life, you often must take a risk. You must tolerate some level of uncertainty. Taking thoughtful, calculated risk strengthens your “change muscle” and helps you grow.
- Change is good.
Life is change. We shouldn’t resist it. Remaining stagnant is in opposition to the natural order of life. Flow with change. Embrace it and regard it as an adventure.
- Thoughts aren’t real.
Every moment of the day, we have random thoughts floating through our brains. Many of the thoughts are negative and limiting. You don’t have to believe them. They aren’t the truth or the whole truth. Thoughts can become our reality, but only if we let them.
- You can’t control others.
We want people to think and behave as we do. We want them to accommodate us and live the way we think they should live. We want to change them. But with awareness, we realize we can’t and shouldn’t try to control others. Instead, embrace differences and honor the uniqueness of the people in your life.
- Your body is a temple.
We all have something or many somethings, we hate about our bodies. But your body houses your very essence. Treat your body with respect and care for the efficient and wondrous way it takes care of you. Even if there are parts of your body you don’t like, focus on your body with a sense of love and gratitude.
- Touch heals.
Physical touch is healing and intimate. It bonds us to other people and relieves stress and anxiety. It has a myriad of health benefits such as lowering heart rate and improving the immune system. Mindful, loving touch with those you love is a gift that should be shared.
- You can handle it.
Whatever you think you can’t handle, you actually can. You have more strength, more resilience, and more inner wisdom than you give yourself credit for. You’ll get through it and survive and maybe even be better for it.
- Gratitude multiplies happiness.
Consciously focusing on all you have rather than thinking about what you don’t have is a far better use of brainpower. Gratitude fosters positivity and well-being.
- Intuition counts.
Your judgment is important, but your intuition supercharges your judgment. Intuition is data from your subconscious mind, based on your past experiences and patterns in life. It can arise spontaneously when you are called on to make a decision or need information.
- Please yourself first.
Pleasing others for approval and acceptance might feel good in the short term, but eventually, you will lose yourself and feel resentful. Please yourself first and give to others based on conscious choice, not the desire for approval or feelings of guilt.
- Self-honesty is freedom.
When you are in denial about something, you are blinding yourself to the truth. Even if the truth is temporarily painful, it will ultimately set you free. Be radically honest with yourself so you can live authentically.
- If you love yourself, chances are that others will love you also.
It’s all about self-love, it all starts with self-love. If you don’t have the love for yourself, how can you expect to get it from somebody else? Love yourself and others will love you also.
- The world has plenty of information but not enough inspiration.
If you think about it, now with the technological revolution, we get access to so much information. Let’s take for example a tiny chip. How much information can you store on it? Isn’t it incredible? We have more information than ever but when it comes to inspiration. I would say that we have a deficit.
We focus too much on the outside and not enough on the inside. We can’t seem to understand that it all starts from within. If the inside is a mess, the outside will also be a mess. Listen to your heart, listen to your intuition, and know that.
“The only real valuable thing is intuition.”- Albert Einstein.
- The world won’t change if you don’t change.
You see, the outside world is a reflection of who we all are on the inside, and all this madness that is taking place around us, is a result of our collective consciousness, and unfortunately, it’s a very polluted consciousness.
It’s not just them, it’s us, us all. If we want the world to change, we have to start with ourselves and believe me, there is something wrong with many of us it may be with you, with me, with he and she, or with every people around the whole world.
- Loneliness is different from solitude.
There is a difference between being lonely and being in solitude. When you are in solitude, you take advantage of it to get in touch with your inner self, to meditate, and to quiet your mind, and that constant need to be around others for you to no longer feel lonely, will disappear. Wayne Dyer talks about this in such a wonderful way, saying that we can never be lonely if we like the person we’re alone with.
If you like yourself, if you have no problem with your person, if you have accepted yourself completely, you will be content with having some quiet time, away from all the noise. You will feel happy when alone and also when surrounded by other people.
The law of attraction works in all that is good and also in all that is bad, and it’s only up to us whether we choose to focus our attention on the negative or the positive. Focus your attention on the many great things you have and are grateful for, and you will see that the more you do that, the more reasons you will have to express your gratitude.
- Patience is a virtue.
For things to happen, for anything to happen, we need to be patient. We first plant the seed of greatness and then we wait for it to grow, we allow it to grow; we take care of it and we protect it. Great things take time and we need to learn how to give time, time.
- Courage is not the absence of fear.
Fear, that crazy thing who won’t allow us to move forward, who won’t allow us to grow and transform our lives, and of those around us will always be present in our lives. Even though many of us know that fear does not exist and that fear is only in our mind, we choose to be paralyzed by it and we choose to allow it to control our lives, our dreams, our goals, and the level of our happiness.
Fear will be present whenever you want to stretch, whenever you want to get out of your comfort zone and whenever you want to do more, be more, have more. What we need to do is look beyond it, and always be aware of the fact that most of the things we fear never happen, because FEAR is nothing more than False Expectation Appearing Real.
Throughout life, you keep learning, growing, falling, rising. You learn from your own experiences or you learn from others’ experiences. Keep growing and share your life lessons with others. This is your life. Take care of it.